All that family is is a room full of people with a candle in the middle of it.
… All that family is is keeping the candle lit.
What do you do when one relative says,
“Ba Hum bug, gafaw, I can’t do this, WHEW.”
And blows the candle out.
First of all, the whole room is dark.
… Do you grab the guys collar and say,
“Hey, you just blew the candle out. You take responsibility, and re-light the candle.”
Or, do you let go of the guys collar, and nurture the candle back to light?
What do you do if another relative wags her finger in the wick of the candle, causing shadows on the wall … thereby creating attention by doing negative things? Do you grab her finger, and make her stop?
Or, do you let go of her hand, and nurture the candle back to light?
We may be puting Dr. Phil out of business.
Because he takes the collar of the guy, explains how he blew the candle out
And what needs to happen for the guy to relight the candle …
What I say is, “Let go of the collar, and nurture the candle back to light.”
Read more in the Nov 25 - Dec 1, 2020 issue.